About education and discipline and good behavior
For a child patient
Discipline and guide the behavior are important for normal growth of each child, and this fact does not change with the presence of cancer, with the special circumstances of the lives of these children may make requiring them to some of the assets of discipline is difficult in some cases, vision of the child in pain, and patients may make the parents are trying to compensate indulged him or give more gifts, or to allow the behavior of certain what they were to let them in normal life, and may find it difficult to enforce certain behaviors that the child have cancer, and his future is not clear to them, and although the validity of this fact for some of these children; as some of them will die, but he should always take into account the necessities of discipline and good behavior and good education in all circumstances.
And may exaggerate some of the parents to protect their child, and want to keep with them always, for fear of the positions they can not control, which deprives the child from activities ordinary and necessary for the child, and declares some of the fathers and mothers that the discipline and draw a border the child's behavior and activities is difficult, because they do not know what to expect logically from the child, and here they can ask the oncologist whether the treatment effect to make the child behave differently, if it becomes nervous, and whether the necessary action to determine the activities child, for example, should prevent the team sports at low count of platelets after doses of chemotherapy in order to avoid bruises or wounds, but that there was no major reason to prevent play or participate in sports, there is nothing wrong, because to prevent the child is the protection of redundant deprive him of normal practice of his life.
And for adolescents who complain often that their parents impose on them the protection of redundant and attention than necessary, and although that is what is common to all adolescents, but it may be true with the teenager with cancer, in particular, since in this stage of his life seeks his independence as normal, but illness forced him, because based on his parents and others and the medical team, and in this case should encourage the adolescent in his quest to achieve some independence, and make some decisions of its own, but within the limits prescribed by the doctor, and the status quo, which requires caution and precision.
And with the disease and the restrictions that can not be for a teenager to feel the freedom of them, may increase his need for rebellion against authority imposed on it in its current form, which includes everyone, of course, doctors and the treating team and the nurses and also the parents and family members, and that there are always questions especially arise when adolescents, and found that fathers and mothers that they are not able to answer, you should consult a specialist and ask for help, it is important not to leave questions unanswered.
For siblings
Siblings of the child may feel different feelings towards the patient's illness and the child and the attention it received, the resentful spite of their sympathy with the child, and believe they have been neglected, and often very real, especially when the hospital stay and not be the case when the sick child well, where the focus all the attention was, of course, and often can not the parents' concerns to the brothers or follow-up to their individual needs or their homework, and in this regard are advised to always trying to find the time and effort to the attention of brothers, and assure them that they are not neglected, and try to make them understand that their sense of resentment or anger from the attention the child receives from the patient before everyone is a natural feeling, and enable them to share the family in crisis, and means useful in this case, help them understand the disease, and their involvement in the therapeutic process, and their involvement in climate crisis, and from the usual to welcome children, especially older so, as it makes them feel the confidence of the parents, and they are useful in the treatment component, and increases them a sense of importance and sense of belonging to the family.
Also that the visit of the brothers of the hospital to see for themselves how processors Another important element, if possible, (and if not permitted in some clinics, you can use pictures), Their vision of the clinic and the treatments and medical devices prevent them from building fantasies fake from the hospital and processors , and has multiple of these fantasies and different, and give mixed feelings, such as fear that the child is under treatment for a severe and painful, which Arabhm from hospitals, or may believe that the child enjoys his time there, which makes them feel jealous, and it is important to remember that younger siblings They are like all children do not care about tomorrow, and in need of care and attention at the present time.
The following points in some of the proposals made by some parents of sick children and mothers around the discipline and commitment:
Factor of the child patient normally whenever possible.
Be patient with your child is present, it is first and foremost before all else and your child you are.
Be reasonable in your expectations about the behavior of the child, do not expect a child of the patient and cancer in the age of four, and under intensive treatments, such as a child to behave well in the sixth, or from a teenager to act as an adult.
Be an example of behavior that you want the child to follow, that the patient, imitate it (especially in your relationship with the treating team).
Remember that many of the complexities and problems and changes in phases or irritability in the child patient resulting from the effects of drugs only, and it is useful to remember that these children are not aggressive or Asin by nature, they feel sick and helpless, and under the influence of large doses of effective drugs, and in need of sympathy and empathy, especially parents, in addition to the clear boundaries, and remember that when he has finished taking the medication, their personality the real return to nature, and it is important to try to find ways to discharge tension of these children and irritability (one parent was giving the child things to the alam or show him the doll Blkmha when nervous).
Monitor and control the gifts of the child patient, many very gifts make him worry and cries and asks: (if you get all these gifts is normal it means that things are very bad), and make the brothers are jealous, and be clear with everyone that you do not wish to receive any gifts, or if you want to require that the gifts to all children and siblings of the child patient is not alone.
If the child's hobbies such as drawing or painting or sewing or any work of art, do promotion, the work of art at rest, and treated the child, and gives him a sense of a positive innovation and creativity, and raises the already morale, and let him control as do completely without criticism or directives, such as: the color of sky blue and not orange, or draw lines within the drawing window, and instead praised his work and his efforts, and the most prominent work in a visible place, and is speaking about something that interest, or what He does listen to him with interest and continued what he says, being supported in his interests would make him unable to discharge the strong feelings and a sense of psychological comfort.
Show your love for the child and does not hide it, you are only its chain, and between the time you sign him and the other connects the body, and assured him Bjrdk permanent, this is a very big help in the healing of the child.
Be careful not to show your anger or Tbermk of the child that I was a mood of acute, or scream in his face, for example, you might say to him: the Whitney get rid of you, and it makes them feel scared, and all negative emotions, and actually affect the recovery, and will not forgive you throughout his life, as you also Sttalm.
Control to follow the rules established within the family, and the routine of ordinary life, children under the various pressures they feel more secure when they do not upset the system and the prevailing usages at home, and that can predict Brocanha, and that includes the sick child and siblings, and preferable to make the children also participate in the development of some of these rules, or do things forbidden at home to give them a sense of participation.
To give our brothers some of the freedom of action choices affect them, especially when children are busy with patient care, or is present at the hospital, to give them a sense of responsibility and make them feel that they are not neglected.
Whenever possible, make the end of the day the child is positive, and especially during sleep, both praising his disposal with the doctor or nursing staff, or good behavior, etc., or by promoting resistance to disease and spread the spirit of challenge to him.
Seek the help of your doctor or social service professionals at the emergence of behaviors can not deal with them, they are trained for such situations and can explain how to care for the child in such circumstances.
Mark children accustomed to talking about their feelings without inhibition, and listen to them attentively, and showed understanding and sympathy.
If you made a mistake, do not hesitate to admit error.
